Like so many others, I have thought a lot about “what is my purpose in life?”
Here is a video I shared with a few friends regarding “Purpose”. Enjoy! This video is related to my blog post on Purpose Like so many others, I have thought a lot about “what is my purpose in life?” And like many, I have struggled with this. In my 20’s, when I thought about my “why,” I associated my purpose to my career or a job title. As I became a father and as I get older, purpose now becomes clearer, but still not easy.
I recently sent an email to a cross-section of about 50 friends asking them for feedback
What is the experiment?
I am sending a series of four emails over the next several months. The focus of these messages is centered on the 3 P’s: People, Perspective and Purpose. (plus some bonus tech tips that our family uses to “make every step count”) The experiment will help determine the value of monthly emails from kevinheikes.com. Depending on results, I may keep doing a monthly email in 2018.
If you know someone that you would recommend getting my updates: Sign up here Here is a 2 min video on why I am doing this experiment.
I would truly value your feedback. If you have comments for me, drop them here Thank you help as I continue on my side hustle project of making every step count!
Like so many others, I have thought a lot about “what is my purpose in life?” And like many, I have struggled with this. In my 20’s, when I thought about my “why,” I associated my purpose to my career or a job title. As I became a father and as I get older, purpose now becomes clearer, but still not easy.
Books and examples from others were helpful, but I still struggled with “am I doing what I am supposed to be doing?” Recently, I started reading Michael Hyatt’s “Living Forward” book https://livingforwardbook.com/. It is a good practical tool for those of us wanting more control of life through planning. These are all good resources and they have been helpful to me in different seasons of my life.
There are different ways for us to gain clarity of purpose in life. I have heard several times in my faith journey that there are “Crockpot Christians” and there are “Microwave Christians.” “Crockpot Christians” are those who have been raised in a church community and don’t have one single epiphany moment of coming to faith, but continually learn more about their faith over a long period of time. “Microwave Christians” are those people who have one or a handful of life experiences that completely change their perspective in an instant. For me, my purpose has developed into more of a crockpot style than microwave fashion. I seem to develop slowly and take a long time to get there!
How I found my Why?
Like my perspective, my purpose continues to develop and evolve. There was, however, a defining moment when my purpose took shape. Here is a post on the life events that helped me find my why: https://www.kevinheikes.com/journey-to-my-story/
Life experiences have the biggest impact on my perspective
For years, I have heard others talk about their life journey, or they will ask, “What is your story?” I have never felt like I had an answer, and to this day I feel like my story is evolving. In 2016, my wife, Danielle, and I were able to attend a weekend couples retreat in Colorado called “A Weekend to Remember” with facilitators Dan & Julie Brenton.
The Brenton’s teachings resonated deeply within me. Dan spoke about our past experiences and how they “mark us.” I think about that comment a lot — how do past experiences mark me? Past experiences then shape my future perspective.
Now, as I engage with others, I see how experiences can and DO shape our lives. The problem is, not every experience is one that we want to share our lives. We all have had horrible experiences that we never wish to share publicly. How many people have stories that we can’t, or wouldn’t want to imagine?
Unfortunately, too many!
It took awhile after heart surgery for me to be able to tell everyone about what I had just experienced. Not because I was ashamed that it happened to me but that I couldn’t believe that a 32-year-old could be having open heart surgery. It took TIME to process the event, TIME to get through the pain and rehab issues, and TIME to then realize how truly thankful and blessed I was to have been able to “fix” the problem after having four strokes.